This morning I watched a TED video about how to encourage children's potentials to the fullest. And you know what? It can be reached by praising. At the initial ages, children can be praised by their intelligence, like when their toddlers can stand or walk by himself parents can say "oh how smart you are", but at the next age parents should praise their children by the process like "you are really good. I appreciate that you've tried hard on this".
Prof. Rhenald Kasali in his book describes about the education system in USA. Teachers should not criticize or blame their students, they are allowed to encourage instead.
Yeah, praising may have a close relation to encouraging or giving a motivation.
I remember a story about a woman who stopped developing her talent because of her husband kept criticizing her and they got divorced. One day she married a loving man who always praised her, this made the woman find her confident again and finally explore her talent and become great.
When I recall my memory about my childhood, I remember how seldom I got praised by my parents. They nearly praised me for something I achieved, and tend to compare me with others instead. Maybe this has some effects on my personality, or maybe not.
But I'm very thankful that now I have a spouse who loves to praise me :)
When someday I have kids, I promise I will give them much love and generous amount of praise :D
Love,
Postingan
